Knowing when to call it quits on a marriage can be difficult, especially if you and your spouse still love each other or you've been together for a long time. Understanding the warning signs of a crumbling union can help you save your marriage or find the best path forward in your divorce.
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Problems Seem to Linger - Even Small Ones
Nobody is perfect. Part of being in a long-term relationship is working together to resolve all the little annoyances that will slowly drive one party up the wall, such as how one person keeps putting cardboard in the trash instead of the recycling, or never takes their dishes to the sink after eating.
If one or both spouses in a marriage can't seem to take the other's requirements seriously or just don't make an effort to address these small annoyances, they'll pile up over time and result in bigger issues. It also denotes a fundamental lack of respect, which is a key pillar in any strong marriage. The famous article "She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By the Sink" by Matthew Fray goes into this phenomenon in more detail.
Arguments Are About Winning, Not Compromising
Most happily married couples or individuals in successful long-term relationships will tell you that arguments should be viewed as an opportunity for both people to team up against an issue, not for one person to prove they're right or better than the other.
If you notice arguments regularly devolve into contests about who's more right, rather than how you can work together as a team to tackle an issue, it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship.
Neither Party Wants to Make It Better
If you have concerns about the strength of your marriage and want to resolve those issues, you may want to consider seeking couple's counseling or a similar method of dispute resolution.
However, if neither party is invested in therapy or wants to make an effort to improve the relationship, you may be better off going your separate ways.
You Simply Want Different Things
It's impossible to predict how we'll change throughout our lives, and nobody stays the same forever. Through no fault of either party, you and your spouse may simply come to realize that you want different things in life, and that your marriage is acting as more of a hindrance to your happiness than anything else.
It's important to remember that filing for a divorce doesn't have to be seen as a failure or a negative experience. Instead, it can just easily be a healing, reaffirming decision for both parties. Sometimes, it's just best to let go and seek what makes you happy without being fettered by another person, even if you love them.
Our attorneys can help you seek the best outcome in your divorce. Contact us online or via phone at (908) 274-3028 to schedule a consultation with our team.